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From page 35 of the September issue of Candis you can read about how the Kidscape charity has helped children and families deal with bullying and how a school in Wales has become active to prevent bullying occuring; making the school a happy environment for it's pupils to learn and develop. Please share your experience.
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| Posted 23/08/2006 16:15:10 |
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| My friend's child became very withdrawn and sensitive. He felt he was always in the wrong and could do no right by anyone, he even tried to run away a few times. It turned out that it wasn't kids who were picking on him but his teacher! After going into the school to try and resolve this unsuccessfully, my friend ended up moving him to a different school where he is now very happy and doing very well. It was such a relief to see him back to his usually happy self. The school in Wales is a glowing example of how bullying can be prevented and the action they have taken should be made compulsory in all schools.
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| Posted 24/08/2006 13:53:13 |
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| It was some 42 year's ago now but I was bullyed in school and learnt to stick up for myself the hard way. It made my childhood hell and I still feel that my life only began when I left school. I was lucky to have a few close friends who are still best mates to this day. The old saying 'the wounds heal but the scares stay with you' is too true and I don't take any nonsense now from anyone. It brought back some memories reading the Stopbullying pages in Candis and what Kidscape are doing is brilliant. I totally agree with Rosie's comments that it should be compulsory in schools to take action to prevent bullying and Markham Primary School is an excellent example of how this can be achieved.
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| Posted 24/08/2006 15:04:40 |
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| my child is being bullied at school and the worst thing is the school will not admit that they have a problem with bullies. they try to make out that my child is just naughty and making it all up. i know my child isn't perfect but the things that have happened is awful. its one child that is doing this to 5 kids, we have all complained no joy so we have taken it to education board. you might find out your child is being bullied but without the schools help you will find it hard to stop. also my child doesn't want to leave his school his friends are there and like he says...what have i done wrong...
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| Posted 31/08/2006 15:53:31 |
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I don't have any kids yet but can sympathise with how awful it must be to see your child go through that. just wanted to say that it's not your fault, or his, and I hope you manage to resolve it with the school. Have you tried ringing Kidscape's helpline for support and advice on how to handle the situation?
I was bullied in school too, for years, but now live a happy and successful life as an adult, and I'm sure your son will too. Good luck. 
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| Posted 28/09/2006 15:00:58 |
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we had trouble with our daughter with horrendous bullying the school were helpful but it continued so we have now deregistered her from school and are now home educating she is now a changed girl she is 15 and now happy for information on home education go to the website of education otherwise and see what a difference it could make to your childs life!
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| Posted 01/02/2007 13:29:12 |
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hello all  my wife works on the ivillage bullying board and Im sure could add much more and more eloquently than I could, but she would tell you that any organisation that does not now have a policy on bullying (whether it be a school or office workplace) is actually breaking the law, schools now have a duty to each and every pupil tp ensure that bullying has no place within it and to ensure that the bullies and victims (sorry horrible word) are dealt with in the most efficient and caring way possible.Im sure that if you approach the school or workplace and make them aware that this can no longer be tolerated and that you wish to take it further, might just give them the motivation that they need to implement a set down bullying policy. My two eldest children were bullied at a school (one of them even by a teacher (a head at that ) ) after a showdown with her we movedthe boys to another school where bullying is simply not allowed and they have flourished in their schooling as a result, never ever under any circumstances allow yourslef or your child to be bullied, standing up may be hard at first but it is worth it 
Science has the answers, Its just up to us to deal with the consequences :s
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| Posted 10/08/2007 15:33:42 |
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My 14 year old daughter is being bullied (if thats what you want to call it). This has been going on for allmost a year now. I have gone to the school. Where I found that they did not have an anti-bullying pollicy in place. The school is now working on putting one together thanks to my daughters strong will to stay in this school. But thats all the school has done and nothing is getting better. It has accually gotten worse. Its now not even bullying anymore. Its harassment now. In every way. Im at a loss and dont realy know what to do next. I did find some good info and documents to help us at this point at www.documatica-forms.com If anyone has any good websites that could give me more info. Please feel free to email me. 
keep smiling : )
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| Posted 10/08/2007 17:50:08 |
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| Hi Stacy, sorry to hear about the problems your daughter has been having with bullying. Kidscape was the first charity set up to prevent bullying and after 21 years of research and innovation, offers support and information to professionals, parents and children. They have a helpline on 08451 205204 or you can go to their website at www.kidscape.org.uk. I hope this helps. Best regards
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| Posted 26/09/2007 12:02:54 |
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| My daughter was bullied at school when she was in year 9. Amongst other things she was pushed down the stairs on one occasion and punched in the face on another by a boy in her year who was known for carrying a knife. Despite claiming to have a no-bullying policy the school was largely unsympathetic. I had to go into school and ask them to remove the boy from her class, which they reluctantly did, but only from SOME of her classes as it would have been too complicated to remove him from all, leaving him free to throw things at her (including his lunch and pens) and call her names etc in class while the teacher did nothing. Upon receiving little satisfaction from the school we decided that as our daughter had been assaulted we would call the police. They were very good. The boy was arrested and cautioned and spent the afternoon in a prison cell. And that was it. Soon afterwards though his mother removed him from the school. Too late though. The damage was done. This made my daughter afraid of going to scholl. The school were no help. The Education Welfare Officer was no help, insisting that it didn't matter why she what the problem was she would have to attend school or we would be prosecuted. The upshot of it was, try as we might we could not get our daughter to attend school regularly and ultimately we were prosecuted, found guilty and put on probation for a year. During her last year at school, on a visit to the doctors because she began to suffer from all sorts of complaints like headaches, stomache ache, dizziness, mood swings and startlingly for a 15 year old, heartburn, (all symptoms of depression we later discovered) the doctor suggested she may have a school phobia and after a visit to the psychiatric nurse who agreed she was referred to a child and adolescent psychologist. Ten months later she still has not been seen by the psychologist. WE also discovered that the school had a "special unit" for children like my daughter who could pretty well come and go as they wanted, could attend lessons if they felt up to it or could work in the privacy of the unit, could talk things over with a counsellor, who could have study work brought from their lessons, but not once in all the time we were having trouble with her did anyone mention this unit to us. And by the time we found out about it, it was too late for her to do her GCSEs so she never went back for the last six weeks. Luckily for my daughter she left school and gained herself at place at a college which understands her problems and her needs and where there is always someone she can go to if she needs to. She has been there three weeks now and has not missed a single lesson. In fact she is even considering asking the teacher if there are any more lessons she can take on after Christmas. MY daughter effectively missed out on three very important years of her maturing life because everywhere she looked people let her down, and guiltily I admit that I let her down too because we were told we had to get her to school no matter what by the EWO that was what we tried to do and we lost sight of the bigger picture and just didn't see how badly our daughter was suffering.
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